Years ago I remember saying I would never be the kind of mom that let my kids watch a lot of TV. For the first two kids, I was able to stick to the practice of very little TV (and it showed in their behavior). By my third kid, our family circumstances and my ability to keep up were so very different that in order for me to make it, TV helped out sometimes! And still does (and it shows in his behavior). Perfect ideals work in a perfect world. But who lives there?
The older I get the more I see how life has a way of shifting ideals around, of bending some straight lines and coloring some white spaces gray. In most cases, the shifting in ideals has made me a better person. Can you relate?
As we practice facing up to less than ideal circumstances throughout life, more and more pride gets shaved off the edge of our person and more and more grace begins to shape who we are. Our life experiences help bring reality to the ideals we started out with. We had to start somewhere, but growing into balance helps make us a people who live with a grace frame of mind.
So what am I trying to say in all this?
- As parents, ideals got us started, but balance keeps us going.
- All the colors of life pop against the gray background we end up in.
- As humans, we are all in process.
- We can avoid conflict with a grace frame of mind.
- As super as you might feel, look out, there's a man about to surface! (see what happened there?)
Wherever your ideals fall on the chart today, I hope you make room from some gray in all your black and white. Grace usually lives there.
** NOTE TO THOSE WHOSE PANTIES MAY BE IN A WAD: this post is not speaking to the clear black and white of right and wrong. This post speaks to the gray of the less than perfect life we all find ourselves living because we are humans living in a broken world. Humans in need of grace.